3. Platonic friendships meet the need for emotional intimacy that hooking up deemphasizes.
They become more important than sexual relationships in many cases, and you are reluctant to risk them by getting physical. “What if this ruins our friendship?” becomes a very relevant and important question, and the stakes feel high.
4. Most personality crushes are “nice guys.”
As such, they suffer as girls continue to reward the jerks, the egomaniacs, and the narcissists.
5. Personality crushes are often a bit geeky or nerdy.
Many of the young women I know have fathers who were a little geeky or nerdy when they were young. As they aged, they grew into their looks and established themselves in successful careers. They were catches once women were interested in settling down. Young women today intend to marry someone like their dad. But while they’re young, they’d like to play. And nobody plays better than players.
I see the logic in all of these arguments. But at the end of the day, after I hear all the praise and appreciation for the personality crush, the conversation turns back to the guys who suck. Women treasure hugs from their guy friends, but they don’t want to see his penis.
I say it’s time to let your personality crush out of the friend box. Could be that’s the guy who can make you happy. Give him a shot. Better yet, you take the shot.
She shoots! She scores!
Do you have a personality crush story with a happy ending?